Psst… That arrow is pointed in the wrong direction!
But I’m getting ahead of myself.
Last week, a friend shared a quote I hadn’t thought of in years, and it hit all the right places in my heart and mind, as I was stewing over a number of decisions:
“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” ~ Rilke
If you are looking for a happily ever after solution—happier relationships, happier finances, happier body, happier heart—be patient with yourself. All the answers aren’t out there somewhere for someone else to give to you. That arrow needs to point right inside your chest.
Looking at the past won’t change what’s currently going on. Wondering about the future can get away of our gratitude for today. But when we give up our need to have it all figured out, when we let go of our constant striving and need for control, and instead surrender to the divine timing that is unfolding, we open up our ability to fall deeper in love with our lives.
Happily ever after is an inside job.
If you find yourself in the midst of a struggle, asking whether to push forward and keep striving or to let go, the answer is always surrender.
Surrender doesn’t mean giving up. Surrender means allowing.
This month, as we get ready to celebrate romantic love with hearts and flowers, may you find yourself wrapped in the support of your loved ones. May you be wildly unselfish with your giving, because when we share love it always grows. And may you surrender and allow all that life has in store for you to fill your heart and answer its questions at exactly the right time.
With all my love,
Kate Bartolotta, editor-in-chief
February 9, 2016